When things are good, you as a prized good, become more prized, and therefore (in their mind) more likely to be lost or stolen, so the control escalates. Sociopaths cannot tolerate things going well, or your life being good, calm and happy.
‘Mark’ you – this means being with you as much time as they possibly can (the most effective way to stop your mind wandering to anyone else.ĭue to this – sociopaths always makes EVERYTHING GOOD – ultimately BAD.Come across as ‘caring’ when really this is ‘controlling’.Like to play centre stage and centre role.Sociopaths will do anything to remove a competitor, and will do almost anything to ensure that no other competitor comes close to you, or to be a real or perceived threat. They do because they own you, and woe betide anyone else who they perceive is trying to stake a claim on THEIR PROPERTY. Sociopaths don’t spend all of their time with you, because they just love you.
Sociopaths have an irrational sense of ownership, control, dominance and of course this includes jealousy. There is real and fake jealousy ( see also the post ) The same concept is apparent with JEALOUSY. They take, because they think that it is theirs to take. It explains why sociopaths can steal from you at the end of the relationship (and often during the relationship too). Something that they OWN.They see what is yours, as theirs (and what is theirs is theirs). They cannot understand how somebody could possibly want to be ‘independent’ and still be with them. Sociopaths see their partners as possessions, they are not people in their own right, with their own views, and their own rights to have independence. Nothing makes a sociopath crazier than losing control of something that they think they own ‘their partner’, which causes them to lose control of themselves. You will watch the colour drain from their faces, they rant and rage, there can even be violence where they physically restrain you. Always they are pulling the strings, and you (whether you know of it or not) are the puppet on a string, and they are the puppet master. But this is always behind the mask of the desire to control. They might appear chilled out, fun, upbeat, charismatic and charming. Keeping control, is the fabric of the sociopaths life. Losing control of you, they lose control of themselves, and then things really spin out of control, as now they feel that they have lost control of both you and themselves – without control. It is odd, as at other times in their life, they are always striving to be just that, ‘in control’. But when they feel that they are losing control of YOU, (and they don’t want this), they will always lose control of themselves. They are able to think fast, strategically analyse a situation. This is an odd concept, considering that they are capable of using both parts of their brain at the same time.
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When they lose (real or perceived) control, they will lose control of themselves and you will witness a full blown narcissistic rage. When they lose control of you, they can lose control of all rational sense. But it wasn’t over nothing in the sociopaths mind. Have you ever witnessed the narcissistic rage? Often it would appear (to you) that it was over nothing.
The truth is, that if they feel that they do not have 100% total control over you and your life, they lose control of themselves. It might appear that they do this deliberately, creating mayhem in your life. Trying to rationalise ‘ what just happened‘ when you are trying to figure out a sociopath, is a time wasting exercise. While you are left with your world spinning on an axis with your head stuck in the cloud of confusion, the pull in your stomach, and your head whirring with Their need and desire for control, can create mayhem, cause trouble, turn your world upside down. The sociopath has a need and a desire for control, that is beyond what is ‘normal’. Keeping tabs on what you do and who you speak to. They lurk in the shadows of darkness, constantly monitoring every area of your life. The sociopath is always in your life, you are never in theirs. You will never be allowed to have your own life being with a sociopath.